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A student from UConn wants to know.....

What or who can people turn to when they are having problems coming out as gay or lesbian or just need support?

Male, Senior

Dr. Caron's Response:

Unlike some other minority groups, the university does not have a person officially appointed to deal specifically with gay/lesbian issues. However, most counseling centers provide services for "sexual issues" - which include orientation. In addition, if you are interested in talking with other gay/lesbian students, contact your campus gay/lesbian organization, which provides a number of supportive, educational, and social activities.

A student from Emory U wants to know.....

As a gay student, I'm tired of hearing people assume everyone is straight. It makes it hard for me to "come out" and tell anyone about who I am - even to my friends. At times, I feel isolated and left out. Are people so narrow-minded that they don't think anyone is gay or are they just homophobic?

Male, Junior

Dr. Caron's Response:

It's hard to say what might be going on. Heterosexism, the assumption that everyone is or should be heterosexual, is a prevalent bias in our culture; homophobia is defined as an intense dislike or fear of gay men and lesbian women, as well as the fear of being perceived as homosexual. I would not assume that your friends are intentionally meaning to alienate you. It may be that they are not aware of what you view as their heterosexism. If you feel comfortable, I encourage you to talk with your close friends about this. I also suggest you get in touch with the gay/lesbian/bi student group. They may be able to offer you the support you are looking for.

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