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How to tell someone you are in love with them


I think that if you know you are in love with someone, you should tell them. Personally, however, I would not tell that person right away, even if I knew my feelings. I knew that I was in love with my current boyfriend for a while before he said it, but I wanted to wait for him to say it before I did, because I was scared about him not having the same feelings. I don't think thats something everyone should do, but it was my preference at the time.

Personally, I think it's really hard to tell someone you love them for the first time. I am the kind of person that says "Love you," all of the time to my family and friends, but when it comes to a significant other, it just seems different. It's sometimes something that can bother you, for instance, what if the person does not feel the same. There is so much anxiety around the topic of telling someone you love them. Honestly, if you feel you do love that person, I think you should let them know, within reason. It may be a little creepy if it's on the first date. It's important to let someone know and not hold back. Whatever happens, happens. Maybe that person might be in the same boat as you; anxious and waiting until you say it first. If you truly feel it, speak it.

Telling someone you love them can be scary, but also so exciting. I truly believe in ONLY telling someone you love them when you truly mean it. If you don't love the person for who they are, don't hurt them by lying and them you love them when you don't. Being genuine is the first part of telling someone you love them.

Personally I'd wait a few months before I even considered thinking about telling my significant other I loved them. I find that sometimes people are stuck in the honeymoon phase and have their heart speak before their brain matches up. Although that's just my opinion, I've heard of many couples who have spoken the minute they've felt love for their partner and they've ended up happily together for years. Every person and relationship feels different therefore I'd say just do it once your 100% positive.

I think that if you've really gotten to know the person, then you should just share how you feel. In my experience, I waited for my partner to say that he loved me before I did, even though I knew. However, he says that he waited for quite a while after he knew he loved me to say it because he didn't want me to get scared or think that he was too attached. I think that societal pressures cause people to feel like being in love is no longer what people really want, or that they want no strings attached. This may be true in some cases, but it is a gross overgeneralization. In the way that you described, you seem to really know the person and the feelings seem to be mutual. In your case, I would just tell them how you feel because they could be waiting for you to tell them or wondering how you feel about them. I think it's just better to let them know instead of making the other person in the relationship wonder.


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