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In light of the third movies release, does Fifty Shades of Grey romanticize sexual abuse?



As a young female adult I know many of my friends are excited to see the new 50 shades of Grey movie (we even had a watch party of the first two to remember where it left off).  During the viewings, many girls squealed with excitement when Christian came on screaming saying how hot he was and even though the sexual encounters got a little aggressive at times many girls claimed they were jealous of Anastasia Steele and her relationship.  However, Christian has a past of being sexually abused and his actions in the bedroom and real life with Anastasia are extremely controlling (not even allowing her to attend a business trip).  There is also a scene where Anastasia is actually sexually assaulted by her own boss and Christian gets him fired but after the fact it is never addressed again.  It seems like this movie is portraying sexual encounters in a very unrealistic way that young girls seems to idolize.  It also brings up the question of what draws the line between sexual abuse and BDSM?

I hate to admit it, but I do like the series. Although I do see many problems with this series and how it portrays relationships. I think in this series it's really hard to tell the difference between relationship/sexual abuse and BDSM. In several scenes he seems extremely controlling, to an abusive point. Some people may think these parts are just him caring about her and wanting the best for her, but if his character wasn't a rich, attractive, and charming man, it would be seen as very controlling. When it comes to sexual abuse, there are some very fine lines with BDSM and sexual abuse, but they establish very strict rules, safe words, etc. There are some parts that clearly make Anastasia extremely upset, and it's clear she is not okay with what they were doing, but when she says a safe word, he stops, which is something they agreed to. There is also a part where Christian teases Ana sexually to get revenge on her, and Ana calls him out for it. In an adult relationship, that is immature and abusive, and not something that should happen, especially in a marriage.

I agree with maine1728 in the perspective of how it is hard to tell the difference between sexual abuse and BDSM. I think that Anastasia for the most part is very good at communicating what she is not comfortable with and Christian knows not to push her limits. They even had a contract with their limits stated to be completely clear about what they were comfortable with doing while still satisfying their needs. However, in one part in the second movie where a past submissive of christian comes in and shows how mentally affected she was when Christian had left her.I think that in that relationship is was more of an abusive relationship because of how much control he had over that girl even 6 years after they had been together.

After reading His Porn, Her Pain for CHF 351, I have to say that I don't feel this movie's goal is to romanticize sexual abuse. Women fantasize about many different things, and a lot of them do enjoy the idea of being controlled or acts within the realm of BDSM, as Dr. Klein discussed. It's when consent is lost and there is no longer communication and understanding that it becomes problematic. I personally haven't seen any of the Fifty Shades moves, although in real life I think that these types of sexual encounters can exist and be okay as long as both parties are caring and open about everything.

I agree with maddog1748, I don't think the movie's goal was to romanticize sexual abuse. I think there is this fine line between BDSM and sexual abuse and some things in the movie can be questionable. I think there was abuse in the relationship, not as much sexually, but emotionally. I think this movie was a step in the direction of His Porn, Her Pain on being open and normalizing people's sexual fantasies

I think that their is a good reason this movie is rated R, and that is because only adults should be able to watch and as many of the above have said, fantasize. Fifty shades is not something women particularly want in a relationship, it is simply a fantasy of their sexual desires, kind of like a series of porn that shows romance. Just because the female audience enjoys the idea of fifty shades of grey, I do not think that they actually want this to happen to them. Adults are old enough to understand that the relationships in fifty shades are not the healthiest and therefore understand that they would not want or allow sexual abuse occurring in their personal relationship.

I think Fifty Shades of Grey is a movie that is liked based on preference. I don't think this movie romanticizes sexual abuse because both Christian and Ana enjoy the relationship they have with one another, although there are ups and downs and lots of emotion. There are a lot of levels to the movie and context as to why what happens in that movie, happens. Many people fantasize the relationship with Christian Grey but I don't think majority of those people would want a relationship dynamic like the Grey's had. It is purely fantasy. I think deciding to watch FSOG and liking it is a personal preference and finding the movie upsetting or disturbing is also preference. Both preferences/opinions are okay but I don't think the movie is an issue, although I can see why people would view FSOG as romanticizing sexual abuse.

I feel as though Fifty Shades of Grey does not romanticize sexual abuse considering everything sexual that happens in that movie is consensual. In a certain scene in the movie she signs a contract with Mr. Grey agreeing to the terms and conditions that would be happening throughout this relationship.

As a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey, I do not believe that the movies romanticize sexual abuse. The 3 movies go into detail about Christian's abuse and talk about how it messed him up in his current life. Ana is there and helps him realize that what he was doing with other women was messed up and helps him recover from that. Even though what he did to those other women was a little creepy, he did have their full consent. With Ana, there is a whole scene about the contract and how it is all about consent. Ana is allowed to withdraw consent at any time and when it happens Christian stops immediately. I think it is cool how deep they went into the consent scene because most movies do not discuss consent before the characters have sex.

As a person who hasn't seen any of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies, I have seen the movie trailers of these movies though. I feel like the movie does not because some people prefer rough sex. So many might see it sexual abuse but others won't view it like that.


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